This week’s episode was so enlightening to me personally, and really put into perspective that we are ALL going through life, trying to figure it out. I sat down with an old friend of mine, Ro Walker Mills, to talk about mental health, transitioning, and music. Ro and I knew each other in our early 20s, which literally feel like different lives away; and for Ro, it kind of was as he came into his own truth and transitioned from Female to Male. It was amazing to see that not only had I grown and I was able to hear that growth confirmed to me, I was also able to see that growth in another person in the same fashion. This is definitely an episode you want to tune into.
Key Points:
People who go through hardships have a greater appreciation for when the sun shines
Seeing vulnerability inspires others to be vulnerable, and to share truth
First relationship was with a woman, and the relationship ended with “everything would be perfect, if you were a guy”
Clothes are just clothes, there are no girl clothes or boy clothes
Found space to discuss body dysmorphia in university student groups
Parents only supported with groceries, and it was helpful to have that life life, but that was about it
Accused of taking the easy route to walk through the world as a man
Truth is still trans, so constantly having to come out to people even if the “goal is achieved” of being greeted as “sir”
Transition looks different for everyone, there is a spectrum and “trans” is an umbrella for that spectrum
Hormones change the way your brain works, it’s harder to deal with emotions
Able to appreciate women on a different level than most other men would, from having lived it
Transgendered implies something having happened to that person, or a state they’re in - it adds a separation layer
Transgender has to do with gender identity, whereas LGB have to do with sexuality
If you’re attracted to a trans person, that’s a good start. But do some research and maybe ask what sex would look like with a trans person instead of asking about their genitalia
Make sure you have a conversation before you’re mid make-out, discuss boundaries early
You should never go off of antidepressants without making a plan with your doctor first
You can be optimistic and have happiness while being depressed, they’re not exclusive things
Silver lining: Losing one dream as a female with basketball, found a new dream with music as a white-trans-man-rapper
Celebrate the little moments because they won’t happen again
You can appreciate your struggles for making you into the person you are
Don’t ask a question you could google, once you google and have questions, then definitely ask and explore the conversation
Youth are malleable and understanding, they don't need to dissect it too much
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